Monday, October 30, 2017

Change

For some people change is exciting for others it can cause anxiety.  Some people try very hard to avoid change. Most of us can't avoid change.  Children are always changing and growing, every day.  As parents, that's what we want them to do, as difficult as it may be.  They aren't little forever, the minutes turn into hours, the hours turn into days, the days turn into months, and the months turn into years.  As hard as you may want to try there is no way to slow it down. One day you are bringing home your baby from the hospital, before you know it you are bringing them to their first day of school, and then almost in an instant, they are off to college. That's why I have always kept this saying in my mind.

Cleaning and scrubbing
Can wait till tomorrow...
For babies grow up
We've learned to our sorrow...
So quiet down cobwebs...
Dust go to sleep...
I'm rocking my baby
And babies don't keep!!
--by Unknown Author

Lately, there have been life moments that remind me of this, more and more.  We have been looking at colleges for my oldest to transfer to next year.  It has been great having him home for the start of his college career, going to community college.  Last year we weren't ready for him to go away to college and neither was he.  He is one of those people that really doesn't like change. Now he is ready to move out and have his independence, but I can see the uncertainty in his eyes.  As many times as we tell him we have all been in your shoes, it's not helping yet.  Do you remember, when you were either graduating high school or in college and thinking, what am I doing?  Some people have it all figured out and some people struggle, thinking that you have to have it all figured out right then. But you don't.   You can change your major in college.  You can even change your career later down the road.  My husband got his degree in geography and has a very successful career in technology.  Dreams can change and you just have to roll with it.

I wish there were some kind of magic words to help, like bandages and kisses on boo-boos used to make it all better, unfortunately, there is not.  You need to find a way to work through change.  Find someone you can talk to about it or find another way to work through it, for me it's writing.  When I was in college I wrote poetry and now I write on here.  What works for me might not work for someone else.  Find your own path.

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